September 25, 2017

Dear Kenneka Jenkins,

I hope this message finds you resting. This is a letter of apology to you and other Black girls we have lost to violence. I, like many others, tried to ignore you, and that is corrected in this letter.

Kenneka, I really tried NOT to notice you. I tried NOT to learn about you. I tried to ignore you and allow others to be and do the work when it came to you. After all, I’m a caretaker for my mom with dementia, a new business owner, new director, and a new adjunct professor. I have a lot going on and don’t have time for another interruption in this already busy schedule. And here we are. As much as I didn’t want to look you in the face, everywhere I turned, you were staring back at me.

I got on Facebook and people were posting about you. I went to a meeting and people were talking about you. I went to sleep, and my girlfriend woke me to talk about you. In the midst of people planning a healing event for protesters against the acquittal of #JasonStockley in the death of #AnthonyLamarSmith, you were standing there looking at me. When I went to a Sunday gathering to talk about how the system did not affirm the greatness of Sojourner Truth, you showed up again. Finally, when I heard the football game coming on, before I had a chance to change the channel, I thought of the NFL protests and how no one took a knee or locked arms for you.

No matter where I turned, you were always standing right there, looking back at me. When I tried to avert my eyes, you were in my periphery. And when I finally gave you some attention, I recognized that the reason I could not shake you, Kenneka, is because you are me, and I am a mere reflection of the truth we both seek—to be seen, valued, and celebrated.

Unfortunately, I have gone most of my life, not valuing and celebrating Black girls and the contributions we’ve made to ourselves, communities, and the world at large. It wasn’t until I went to graduate school that I even gave Black girls a second thought. I can remember my advisor, Dr. Laurance Parker, telling me I should take a class on Black Girls taught by Dr. Ruth Nicole Brown. I remember scrunching my face and saying, “I’m a Black girl. I taught Black girls. I was raised by Black girls. My friends are Black girls, so I think I know Black girls.” Fortunately, he persisted. I took the class, and it blew my mind! My eyes opened to a whole new world.

It was then that I realized I had taken for granted my own Black girlhood, and the beauty of Black girls and women. In hindsight, it makes complete sense why I didn’t think I needed the class. Where in my life’s history had the value of Black girls and women ever been celebrated? Only until recently did we get celebrations like #BlackGirlsRock and #BlackGirlMagic. So, if I never saw us celebrated, why would I think I needed to learn about us. Simultaneously, this was exactly why I needed the class. I needed to learn who I was as a Black girl and what magic I bring to the table. I needed to learn about the Black girls who came before me and the gifts they offered. I needed to learn about the Black girls we lost to violence, because people did not and still do not value their lives. I needed to know about #SayHerName and the stories of #RekiaBoyd #SakiaGunn, #KishaMichael, #MyaHall, #MeaganHockaday, #SandraBland and you, #KennekaJenkins, to name a few. I needed to know the overlooked Black girls and women, past and present, because I can hear them all echoing, the words of Sojourner Truth, “Ain’t I a woman?” Ain’t I a human? Ain’t I worth celebrating?

Kenneka Jenkins, you are just one of many Black girls we have lost to violence, and unfortunately, many people have not even noticed, and others want to blame you for your death, which is far from the truth.

Truth is, we never valued you.

Truth is, I avoided you because I was never taught that I was worth valuing. So, if I didn’t value myself, how could I value you? I was never told that I should love myself fiercely. I was never taught that self-love is the most powerful and magical healing medicine; It is the highest and most radical form of activism and social justice.

So, when I took the time to look, that is when I saw you, Kenneka. And when I saw you, I saw myself.

Today is the day I start to radically love myself, reclaim my power, and rejoice in the beauty and power that is #BlackGirlMagic. Today is the day I see you and all #BlackGirls.

I love you and am forever grateful for perhaps one of the most powerful reminders: to see, value, and celebrate myself so that I can see, appreciate, and rejoice in the beauty of you and other Black girls. Rest in power #KennekaJenkins.

Love, April Warren-Grice.

When was the last time that you celebrated Black girls?

When was the last time you stood in solidarity with Black girls?


  1. Travisha Huntley on January 2, 2022 at 6:33 pm

    this was lovely ms.april warren-grice
    love travisha tiffani

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